Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Broke but looking good.

So this week has been challenging to say the least.  Both DD's that were not at home are now at home and unemployed.  DD#2 received her second to last pay.  Now any rational adult will think to save the money as they have no idea where the next dollar is coming from.  Not my DD's.  The first thing she did was run out and get her nails done.After what seemed like hours of talking about saving and not spending money on frivolous things, she looked at me and said but don't they look pretty?  Oh the joys of being young and irresponsible  but wait my children are not irresponsible!   They came home to get back on track, to change their lives to start fresh, so why was I so upset over $10.00 nails.  It took me about two days to realize I wasn't upset over the fact that she did something for her self that made her happy.  I was jealous.  Focused on family and getting out of debt, I have forgotten how to treat myself.  To reward myself for all the hard work.  And that my friends is what's important.  Do something for your self.  Take the time to honor yourself.    
We haven't lost site of our goals and we are still being responsible but  getting your nails done, buying a book, enjoying a Starbucks coffee, isn't going to deter you from your path.  If anything it will energize you to push  harder to achieve your goals and hey your nails will look good while doing it.

Lesson Learned:  NO matter the struggle, take the time to treat yourself.  It helps you to maintain focus.

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

What we need

I got the most amazing lesson the other day.. No matter what your kids are going to think  that you are great and perfect at least until they become teenagers.  However, they come back around once they reach adulthood.
We just happened to get very lucky with someone giving us a piano.  DS#3 is quite the entertainer and can play music by ear.  Now I wanted a piano because I felt that it was the next best transition for him.  I never knew in a million years that he has been making this his secret birthday wish for the last 4 years (yep, since he was 3). Being blessed and scoring this piano exactly four days prior to his 8th birthday, made DH and me the best parents ever.    Our children teach us to listen to our hearts and in the quiet still moments, they tell us exactly what they need.  Maybe if we all took the time to slow down, look around and breathe, we would understand that Children teach us that what they want most is for us to just be there silent and strong.  In end we always get what we need.